Domestic abusers often refuse to let go, stalking victims at work and home

Domestic abusers in Lithuania often continue to harass their victims even after separation, stalking them at work, slandering them to employers, and loitering near their homes, according to a report by LRT.lt.

Mėta Paulauskė, a representative of Atgaivos sala, a support fund in Visaginas aiding domestic violence survivors, noted that abusers can be adult children or spouses. In one case, a man pursued his ex-wife to her workplace and spread lies about her to her superiors.

While community support can help victims leave abusive relationships, Paulauskė highlighted that language barriers in Visaginas—where some survivors do not speak Lithuanian—prevent many from seeking help.

Atgaivos sala provides assistance to domestic violence survivors, including mediation, prevention programs, addiction prevention, and efforts to combat gender stereotypes and misogyny. The organisation also promotes women’s economic independence and financial empowerment.

Paulauskė explained that the organisation aims to be an alternative to state services, offering a safe and welcoming space for survivors. “Acceptance, empathy, equality, and critical thinking are important to us. Domestic violence or its threat strips people of their sense of safety. Our goal is to help restore it,” she said.

Survivors typically receive initial support from specialised centres but often require long-term assistance. Atgaivos sala provides ongoing psychological, legal, and emotional support, as regaining a sense of safety and self-worth can take a year or more.

Paulauskė noted that public attitudes toward domestic violence in Visaginas are shifting, with residents increasingly reporting abuse and supporting victims. However, she recalled a tragic case where a woman experiencing domestic violence took her own life, shocking the local community.

The organisation also addresses the lack of non-governmental groups in Visaginas advocating for human rights and vulnerable groups. Despite fears of stigma in smaller municipalities, Paulauskė said Visaginas residents actively seek help from NGOs and trust them. Atgaivos sala strives to create a home-like environment where people feel safer discussing their experiences.